Every individual is unique and different in their own way. There are different sides / dimensions /qualities  in one human being, which may be Good & Bad / Vices & Virtues / Merits & Demerits / Capability & Incapability.

Usually, it so happens that we judge an individual whose probable behavior is disliked by us, and we dissociate,  whereas he/she may have many other good qualities that would have beneficial to us. Every human being reacts differently in different situations. Each human brings forward that quality that will react to that stimulant that triggers the event or argument. This does not mean that as an individual he/she is bad. We have to understand that it is just the Action vs Reaction syndrome.

We should analyze his/her qualities in the totality of all the aspects of that human being and then decide to associate or dissociate.

This especially is important to consider when building/cutting off a relationship with people who matter to us … spouse, parents, children, staff, organization, employees, team, relatives, friends, etc. People whose presence means something to us in our life.

We should try and see any individual at least in 20 different circumstances always to understand any human being, before getting into the decision of continuing your association or disassociation with that individual.

Reference to the above image: – Suppose, an individual has 16 good qualities and 4 bad qualities. Usually in normal circumstances, we may come across only bad qualities out of 20 qualities of that individual in a particular circumstance, we disassociate or cut off our relations with this person and overlook that he/she has many more good qualities which may be beneficial.

Another example could be “Electricity” … we all know that touching an electrical point can harm you or probably cause major injuries, but we also understand and accept the vast benefits of having electricity in our life. We just cannot take a decision to disassociate with electricity and live in darkness for mere one negative quality of Electricity Shock. We accept and acknowledge both advantages & disadvantages of electricity and work around to utilize it and at the same time take precautions not to be hurt by it.

Addition :

If we observe the behavior of the different animals, we understand, it is predictable and very low variable by the look we understand the nature the food habit the behavior of that particular animal. But human beings are very unpredictable.